Get On That!
So I usually watch the Today show in the morning when I'm eating breakfast to see the traffic report and weather (then I usually watch something I've DVRed so I don't have to listen to the cloying sound of Meredith Viera's voice blathering on about things nobody cares about), and today they had some couples on who have been married for a number of years and had decided to have sex a bunch more to rejuvenate the marriage. One couple copped to committing coitus for 101 consecutive days.
It was an interesting segment. They were talking about how when they had sex even when they weren't feeling like it, it brought them closer together and they put the little irritations in their marriage into perspective. Please note before reading any further (as you already probably know) that I'm unmarried and am quite possibly just talking out of my ass on this. After reading the book Sex God by Rob Bell, and realizing that God gave us marriage and sex as a picture, however imperfect, of what our relationship is supposed to be with Him and how intimate he wants to be with us. When one of the husbands on the Today show made the point that it's not feasible to be intimate every day but it's bad to be intimate rarely, I had to disagree with him. If he had said 'physically intimate', I would have agreed, but shouldn't you at least try to have some sort of intimacy every day (or at least close to it)? After all, we don't have sex with God when we're being intimate with him.
God wants to be intimate with us every day, so why should a marriage be different? Sure, God's perfect and spouses aren't, so I realize that trying to make a marriage an exact picture of the kind of relationship God wants with us isn't possible (and really, are any of our relationships with God exactly what He wants them to be?), but how much better would many marriages be if people tried for that unattainable goal? If you're reading this, you know I'm a perfectionist, so that line of thinking shouldn't surprise you in the least.
They gave a little factoid that recently married couples have sex, on average, 109 times a year. If you're married and your number is a lot lower than that, when you get home to your spouse tonight (or if you're already home, feel free when you're done reading this), get on that! It's an act of worship.
2 comments:
101 straight days? Holy crap. I once proposed that my wife and I try to do it every day for a week -- and we failed. Just the thought of it exhausted me after 4 days.
Perhaps that's cause I was intent on making it "good" sex. Which, I'm guessing, takes a lot more out of a couple than "lets just get this over with" sex.
I like the idea of putting a little more focus on intimacy and sex, but this seems a little too much like following the letter of the law rather than the spirit of the law.
I would agree that the 101 days would be more of a 'letter of the law' type of thing, but I don't see how being more mindful of it would be. I'm guessing you're still in the 'recently married' time frame that they looked at for the statistics anyway. Maybe this doesn't even apply to you so much.
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